Choosing You: How Radical Self-Care Saves Lives (Including Yours) - Episode 123
Caregiving is one of the most meaningful things you can do—but it can also be one of the most dangerous.
Host Diane Carbo shares a staggering and terrifying reality: 63% of family caregivers become seriously ill or die before the person they're caring for passes.
Why? Because the chronic stress, emotional exhaustion, and lack of respite care aren't just "in your head". That stress lodges in your body, showing up as fatigue, brain fog, anxiety, digestive issues, inflammation, and even autoimmune illness.
This episode isn't about bubble baths or quick fixes. It's about healing at the soul level, and it features healer and spiritual teacher Alx Uttermann, who explains why unprocessed stress is the true disease behind caregiver burnout.
Alx shares "stupid simple" tools that can dissolve stress in minutes, helping you reclaim your health, energy, and spirit. It all starts with one powerful choice: Choosing You.
🌟 What You'll Discover in This Episode:
- The Sponge & Battery Analogy: Why open-hearted caregivers are like "giant sponges" that absorb the pain and stress of those around them.
- The Soul Battery: How your soul acts like a battery, holding both positive and negative charges, and what happens when it's overloaded with negativity.
- Listening to Your Body: How physical pain, headaches, anxiety, insomnia, and obsessive thinking are all alarm bells from your system screaming that it needs to "decharge".
- Ancient Healing Tools: Alx introduces simple, powerful techniques from ancient India that use the five elements (Earth, Fire, Sky, Water, Air) to dissolve stress.
- A "Stupid Simple" Tool: A step-by-step guide to the single most effective, portable, and free tool you can use right now to decharge negativity (Hint: It's just a black rock).
- The Power of Flowers: How fresh-cut flowers (especially roses) can act as an energetic buffer, absorbing stress in a room so you don't have to.
- Putting on Your Mask First: Why you cannot help anyone else if you go down first, and how these simple tools help you stay strong.
💎 Your 1-Minute Radical Self-Care Tool
Alx explains that the easiest way to "decharge" is by using the Earth element. Here's the simple practice you can do anywhere:
- Find a black rock. Any black stone will do—from your garden, a riverbed, or a landscaping store. Size doesn't matter.
- Hold it in your hand.
- Step 1 (Gratitude): Say "Thank you" (to God, the Universe, nature, etc.) for the stone. This gratitude opens your heart so energy can move.
- Step 2 (Intention): Say, "Right now, I am decharging/offloading all the stress, pain, and negativity I've absorbed".
- That's it. Just hold the rock for 10-15 minutes while you drive, watch TV, or sit quietly. You'll feel the negativity drain out of you and into the rock, which offloads it to the earth.
Alx shares stories of nurses, doctors, and therapists who use this exact technique to survive high-stress environments and go home clear and available for their families.
Alx
👇 Listen Now to Choose Yourself
This episode is a literal lifesaver. If you feel overwhelmed, exhausted, or on the brink of burnout, you owe it to yourself to listen.
You are the most important part of the caregiving equation. Without you, it all falls apart. Learn how to be gentle with yourself, grab a black rock, and start practicing radical self-care today. Because you are worth it.
Find Alx Uttermann's tools at: https://energeticsofselfcare.com/
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