Behind Closed Doors Elderly Care Exposed : Elder Abuse and Neglect

Learn about the different types and impacts of elder abuse and neglect and how to prevent and address it. Share your stories and ask questions to gain support and knowledge from others in similar caregiving situations.

Behind Closed Doors Elderly Care Exposed : Elder Abuse and Neglect
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Elder abuse and neglect exists. It is a sad fact of life.

The Panorama documentary on the BBC. Behind Closed Doors Elderly Care Exposed, shows these acts occurring in caregiving situations. This is not a film for the faint of heart.

The reviews for this film range from “shock that this could occur” to “this should not be something shown on TV”.  As an RN that has worked in the long term care industry… I think it is time that some one draw attention to the epidemic of elder abuse.

Although this was filmed in the UK, I can tell you , this could occur in any home, any nursing home in the world. This is a subject that needs to be discussed and not kept behind closed doors. It is an ugly fact, but a necessary topic.

Panorama and the BBC deserves kudos … for tackling a very sensitive and difficult subject.

There are many different types of elder abuse and neglect:

physical, mental, emotional, sexual,  financial, neglect and abandonment.

There are many that exploit the elderly in different ways.

Society fails when we turn a blind eye to this. There are always going to be people out there that will do harm to others. But, we must do whatever we can to protect those that cannot protect themselves.

How Bad is Elder Abuse and Neglect?

“The victims of elder abuse have a 300% higher risk of death. This compared to those not abused” . This is according to the National Center on Elder Abuse Administration on Aging . The statistics on elder abuse and neglect and are skewed. Because this is a problem that is vastly under reported. The reported crimes are estimated to cause a financial loss to elderly victims over $2.9 million in 2009.

The medical costs that occur from elder abuse and neglect adds… another $5 billion dollars annually to medical expenditures.

How do put a stop to elder abuse and neglect?

This is not an easy question to answer. There is legislation that is meant to protect and the elderly. These laws are not worth the paper they are written on, if we are not aware of them or how to enforce them.

To read more about the signs of elder abuse download here.

15 questions about elder abuse download here

I have created an area here, for you to share your stories or concerns about elder abuse and neglect. I am here to help you find a solution to a problem. Each state has different rules and legislation.

If you have someone working to work to stop elder abuse in your area, please share here. If you know of different legislation that would benefit every one, please share here.

We can all benefit from the information we share.

Now is your chance to have your say.

Share your unique point of view!

PLEASE NOTE: This page is intended to provide an outlet for people… that are providing and advocating for an aging senior in their life. It is not intended as a replacement for legal, medical or professional advice.

You’re probably not alone–your personal experience. Your story could resonate with other readers on this site.

Share your stories, ask your questions, rant, rave or stomp your feet!

No profanity or flames please this is a Family Friendly site.

Either way, we’d love to hear from you!

You don’t need to be a professional writer. All you need is the desire to share an experience or ask others for help with a situation or question. I love to hear stories of your family member and your situation .

So, please, share a few pictures of yourself or your family member. If you have made changes to a house to remaining the home longer, those are great photos share as well.

Here are a few things you should know about sharing with Caregiver Relief :

If you are sharing a story, please make it about:

  • Your caregiving experience
  • Your family member that you are taking care of,
  • Or about any situation related to support services (good and bad)
  • Difficulties with insurance,
  • Concerns about alternative placement , such as a Nursing home or Assisted Living
  • Tips on caregiving.

Remember, sharing your experience will help others with similar situations.

When it comes to a question, a little bit of information about your situation would be most helpful. You do not have to follow the amount of content rule.

Here’s what we would not publish:

No affiliate or commercial links please. No thinly disguised advertorials… no stories that have been published elsewhere… and no sales pitches for products or businesses. I’ve let a few through in the past – those links will be deleted in the coming weeks so please don’t bother sending any more in.

If you are sharing a story, according to Google rules and article must have between 400-700 words. Less is too short for a page, and longer is just… too long. Don’t forget to provide a link to your personal website or blog so we can link back to you!

Try to include at least one photograph (it really does make a story come alive) but no more than four. Tell us what’s in each picture.

Don’t forget to include your full name and email so I can get back to you if I have any questions.

One more thing:

I’ll do everything I can to publish your story. Sometimes I get submissions that simply don’t make the cut – because they don’t follow the guidelines.

I can’t reply individually. If your piece doesn’t appear soon after you submit it, chances are it doesn’t meet requirements.

So please, read the above carefully – and hit that keyboard. The rest of us can’t wait to read your post

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