Making Your Wishes Known
An advance directive is a legal document. It allows you to make your medical/healthcare wishes known… t o your family, friends and medical personnel. This happens in the event you become unable to make decisions for yourself. (ex: stroke, coma,) and you are unable to express yourself. These documents can be put into place as early as 18 years old. This allow you, as an individual, to make your health decisions ahead of time. It also takes the stress off family members to make those decisions for you. For a good example of why this is important, look at what could happen if you don’t have this emergency information.
A good advanced directive describes the treatments you would want. It also addresses ones that you do not want depending on how sick you are.
A clearly written advance directive helps prevent disagreements among those close to you. It alleviates some of the burdens of decision making. These are often experienced by family members, friends and health care providers. You have the right to be specific about the certain kinds of treatment you do not want. For Example: Should you have an illness, and are unlikely to recover or have a condition you feel affects your quality of life.
On the other hand they can also say that you want a certain treatment, no matter how ill you are.
Advance directives take many forms and each state is very different. You may change or cancel your advanced directive at any time, as long as you are considered of sound mind to do so. That means you are able think rationally, and communicate your wishes in a clear manner.
There are times when you do not have time to put things in writing. Maybe you have a sudden change in your health and you are faced with a sudden change in your condition. It is never too early to have this discussion. You should express your wishes to your doctor and your family. Be exact as to what your expectations are at this time. Wishes made while in the hospital will be followed. They override anything made in writing by you earlier.
Individuals who are chronically ill are more likely to have an advanced directive. They may choose to not allow CPR ( cardiopulmonary resuscitation) should their heart stops. One may choose not to be placed on a ventilator. This is a DNI ( Do not Intubate) . Others may not want to be treated with IV antibiotics that may prolong their life.
These decisions, when made ahead of time, can reduce suffering. It gives an individual a sense of control over their quality of life decisions and death. End of life issues can be overwhelming , but it does not have to be a negative experience. Death can be a time for families to come together, share, and celebrate a life and love of a family member.
What is a living will?
A living will is a legal document that states a person's wishes regarding their medical treatment in the event they become unable to speak for themselves due to an incapacitating illness or injury.
It is important that these decisions are discussed with family and close friends if possible, to ensure that everyone is aware of the individual’s wishes. It form of an advance directive.
This document frequently outlines specific types of life sustaining treatment. Ones that you may or may not want. The requirements for a living will vary from state to state. Make sure you consult a professional. One who has expertise in this legal area before you decide to create a living will.
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End of life issues
In completing the cycle of life, death is a subject everyone wants to avoid. It is a subject that when approached should include preserving one’s preference. As well as maintain their dignity at the end of life. Many do not know the questions to ask when it comes time for making end of life decisions.
Communicating your wishes makes it easier to respect your wishes. A detailed directive is best. You should be aware that having a written directive without any prior discussions, does not ensure that your wishes will be honored.
Studies show that personal communications is important. Many advanced directive forms do little to influence end of life decisions. The personal communications is the key. You should have conversations with your family and your health care professionals. Before a crisis occurs. First, it is important to consider your values and the things that are important to your quality of life. What do you value most about your physical and mental well being?
Consider things such as:
- Do you love reading
- Listening to music
- Being outdoors
- Talking sports
- or politics
Do you have fears regarding dying?
These are just a few questions to consider. Having conversations about these topics with your family and healthcare professionals can help ensure that your wishes are honored. Taking the time to document those wishes in an Advanced Directive or Living Will is also important. It's never too early to start talking future your death was inevitable, envision where you would want to be. Who you would want to be with you?
Think about what you would want to say to those around you. Think about what you may need for comfort and support. You may want someone to read to you, pray with you, have your favorite music playing. These are important issues you should discuss.
Today, there are many treatments that keep people alive. Many options are offered Even if there is no chance the condition will reverse or the condition will improve.
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Many times families continue medical treatments. These are long past the point where they are helpful. Simply because they did not know what their loved one wanted. They feel they must do everything possible. This takes an unnecessary emotional and financial toll on a family.
Take time and review these situations and consider what is important to you and your quality of life. If there was no chance of improvement do you want treatment? or do you definitely not want to endure a treatment that might keep you alive?
In considering a treatment, you really need to address what you are willing to endure … If the chances of regaining your current health and current quality of life were high?
If the chances are low that your condition or quality of life will not be the same or better do you want treatment? You should assess your willingness to take these risks.
Here are a few scenarios that you should give some thought to:
You are terminally ill. The treatments proposed have severe side effects.
These side effects:
- Inability to eat
- Constant fatigue
Some may last for months. Some may become a permanent condition.
What would you be willing to endure… if the doctor could assure you that you would regain your current quality of life and health.?
You have a sudden condition where you can no longer express yourself verbally?
You have a condition that affects your swallowing, and you are unable to eat?
Your only option is a feeding tube for nutrition. You would never be able to eat regular food again. You have to have a tube placed in your stomach. This allows your nutrition to come from a bag. Because of your condition, it causes constant vomiting. Do you want to continue this treatment?
You are no longer able to speak clearly or follow commands.
You are in severe pain most of the time.
You have a lung condition. This limits your physical abilities. You are unable perform anything without getting out of breath. You may require being placed on a ventilator to assist with breathing.
Suffer from severe nausea, constant diarrhea, vomiting, dehydration or constipation.
Your present condition is causing you to have repeated and frequent admissions to the hospital.
Your present condition requires that you be on a dialysis machine several times a week in order to stay alive.
You require someone to assist in caring for you 24 hours a day.
You can no longer spend any time out of the house.
Your presently have severe pain. I. n order to have it alleviated, the meds you take make you sedated and cause you to sleep all the time.
These are very important aspects of end of life issues. They will help you take charge of your life, even until your death.
Planning ahead and good communications make it easier for others to respect your wishes. It helps your family and friends to make difficult decisions. And do it with less anxiety, regret or guilt.
If all this is overwhelming, it may be the right time to take a look at how the Health Care Notebook. It makes it easy for you to compile all this information and keep it in one place.
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