Life after Caregiving : Remembering My Parents Anniversary

Life after Caregiving : Anniversaries

72 years ago today… Johnny was a young soldier on weekend leave. And Jo, a lovely young woman who had traveled by train from another state, stood before an altar in a church in Mobile, AL. That day they exchanged wedding vows. They promised to love each other “for better or for worse, in sickness and in health” – and they did.

40 years later, Johnny was diagnosed with cancer that already spread. For five months, he lingered on while the cancer ate away at his body, spreading to his lymph nodes and then to his brain. For five months, his wife and daughters took care of him, loved him, and did everything they could for him.

When he died, Jo picked up the pieces of her life, and moved on, making a new life for herself. She was still a vibrant, lovely woman. Not so young any more, in her early 60s, but still able to turn heads and charm everyone who met her. There were predictions that she would love again. Maybe marry again. That she would not live out the rest of her years alone. Though several men tried to catch her interest, Jo always said no one else she met ever measured up to her Johnny.

The new life Jo created involved a lot of volunteering… with her church, with fraternal organizations, with the local food bank. Everyone loved her smile, her warmth, her caring demeanor.

As she grew older and began to have her own health issues, she tried to bear them all with grace and dignity. Even the things that seemed designed to rob a person of any semblance of dignity.

Jo spent her last three years in an assisted living facility. She quickly became a staff favorite. She always had a smile and a kind word for everyone. She glad to see anyone who visited. Her room was a peaceful little oasis. Many of the aides would stop by each day just to have a quick hello and enjoy the serenity of her presence.

At the end of her life, Jo had to bear the pain of severe injuries from a fall. She developed a debilitating neurological disease. She was crippled by a stroke. She still tried to show her love for her beloved family, for her friends, and for the loving God she worshipped.

One night, Jo and her hospice aide sang hymns together. The family had just returned from dinner to the sounds of … “Old One Hundred”: “Praise God from whom all blessings flow. Praise him all creatures here below. Praise him above the Heavenly host. Praise

Father, Son and Holy Ghost.”

Before Jo died, her daughter watched as she began slightly lifting her head. She began making little “kissing” motions. As if greeting someone, several some ones, in fact.

Then Jo raised both arms up, curving them into an embrace with a presence only she could see. Considering that her last fall had left her with a broken collarbone and 10 fractured ribs… this was pretty remarkable. Whether there was anything or anyone there is something no one in this life can know.

The nurse and Jo’s family remain convinced to this day that… she was embracing her beloved Johnny, who had come to welcome and guide her onward. They had a love to last through the ages.

Happy Anniversary, Mother and Daddy! I love you.

Blessings,

Judy

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